So, I started writing this last year…almost a year go in fact and feel like now it is most appropriate to publish. We always play close attention to our ‘Curriculum Vitae’ when applying for a job, but how much attention do we pay to our ‘Life CV’. Don’t worry, I have made this up for the purpose of the blog post. The ‘Life CV’ is not something you should know about 😉 What if our ‘Life CV’ was a collection of our experiences, not our education and career. Our ‘Life CV’ probably holds the key to our happiness. I saw a quote by Melanie Moushigian Koulouris, “Love your whole story even if it hasn’t been the perfect fairytale.” In life, all we want is happiness, all we search and strive for is happiness. Different things make people happy, but as long as what we are doing is right for us then we shouldn’t look to other people’s lives for comparison. I read a quote recently and it resonated so much. It talked about feeling your own success, being happy with where you are, not what society’s version of success is.
Everything that has happened in your life has happened for a reason, and the events you have experienced are the reason you are who you are today. I remember reading once that everybody you meet is in your life for a reason. I like to think even the people I have met through my life that weren’t nice people, they have taught me how I don’t want to be, and also made me stronger. I have also met lots of people through my life who I admire and I want to be more like. I can honestly say now, I am my inspiration and completely love where I am right now in life.
I love my ‘Life CV’. I had a great childhood and was lucky enough to have holidays in Italy every year. I have met great people through my life at Secondary School and University. I only have a handful of close friends that I really trust, but that is all I need. I have been fortunate enough to travel the world and see famous landmarks. I have seen Christ the Redeemer in Brazil, visited Evita’s grave in Buenos Aires, sailed around the Galapagos islands, visited Macchu Picchu, travelled Australia, New Zealand and Thailand. I have seen all the places I wanted to see. Although I would like to see the Northern Lights at some point, go to the Grand Prix in Monaco, see an Opera in Verona, go to New York at Christmas…oh God, I haven’t seen all I wanted to yet have I?
Anyway, the reason for this post is to make you reflect and love whatever you have done in your life, whatever it has entailed. My life hasn’t been perfect (but whose has?) My parents separated when I was 15 (and not a very amicable split). That was a very tough part of my life. I lost two amazing friends when I was 17, and I don’t think we knew what had hit us at that age. Losing my great nana, grandma and grandad in my early 20’s was very hard, very close together. They were like second parents to me. I suffered with extreme sickness in my pregnancy with my youngest, that I actually asked myself if I could continue with the pregnancy. And I am currently going through a messy divorce with 3 young children. But all the experiences I have been through, also gave me great memories. We had a great childhood, and was sad my parents split, but it was essential for us to grow up healthy. Losing our friends at 17 was horrendous, but I feel lucky they were in my life and I have lots of memories of them, and how much losing them brought our 6th form together. Losing my grandparents and great nana was hard but not many people are lucky enough to have their grandparents and great grandparents in their lives. They were a massive part of my childhood and I still smile now about my time with them. As for my youngest little man, he is the happiest little bundle of chaos and I am so proud I struggled through to get him here. I have had 3 lovely births, so I just have to forget I was cheated out of lovely pregnancies. My 7 year marriage gave me 3 beautiful, healthy children, and lots of fun happy times in between the tough bits. I would love to write more but as the divorce is still going through it is a sensitive issue, and toxic relationships are a very personal subject.
I am now embarking on a new chapter. People may not think my life is very enviable right now, but you know, giving yourself respect, self-worth and happiness is actually a better feeling than whatever other people’s thoughts are. When was the last time you reflected on what you are doing right now? Do you truly love your job? Is you relationship with your partner as good as it could be? How are you with your children? Do you see them enough? Are you close to your parents? Do you love you? Do you love the way you are, the way you feel? Have you seen the places you want to see in the world? I just want to say, always ‘check-in’ with yourself and make sure you are happy. Please don’t ever conform if it doesn’t make you happy.
There is that old saying “When life gives you lemons, make lemonade.” I love it! If you aren’t happy with something in your life, make it positive. We all have a choice. We are in charged of our life. Being healthy starts from the inside. Be positive, eat healthy, exercise and do what you love. Help others, be kind and what is meant for you will find you.
An old University friend used to say, “We’re not here for a long time, we’re here for a good time!” Hope that is ok to quote Mc Winston? 🙂